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Abortion
Early Church Said Nothing?
I heard a Congress person say the early church and the Bible say nothing against the practice of abortion. Is this true? Did the Bible & early church really say nothing concerning abortion? click for full text

Alone Holidays
Coping with Isolation
I live alone and am terribly lonely on holidays. I am widowed, had no children and have no siblings. It makes me feel extremely depressed during times when others celebrate family click for full text

Anger - Righteous or Sinful?
I know we shouldn't blow our cool & dump anger on others. But, isn't there a righteous anger encouraged in Scripture? What about the verse that says "Be angry but do not sin?" Jesus' anger? God's? click for full text

Anger Management
Is it Biblical?
One of my best friends at church is always angry. No one can do or say anything right & she seems to look for stuff to "blow up" at. We don't know how to handle this anymore. Any suggestions? click for full text

Angry Controlling People
How to Respond
A friend of mine is so touchy that almost anything I say sets her off. She threatens suicide & seems manipulative. Any advice? click for full text

Backslidden but Saved?
I'm living in sin and I know it. I guess you could call me a backslidden Christian. My question is how do I know I'm saved even though I'm sinning? Will I be in heaven? In a rapture? click for full text

Celebrate in Judgment?
Given that our country is probably under judgment and so many are suffering hardship, do you think it's OK to celebrate and have fun, too? click for full text

Christians Misbehaving
I tried to do something nice for a new believer by introducing her to someone who shared interests & could develop a friendship. But, she got mad & said I was trying to "pawn her off" on others. click for full text

Church Disruptions from Disability
I have a breathing problem. Church people tell me to "cut it out" (just kidding). So I quit going to church, too. I would appreciate your suggestions for my peculiar problem. click for full text

Cliques in Church?
There are groups in my church who are really cliquish. They invite each other to conferences, workshops, & lunches, but leave others out - even those who say they would like to go. click for full text

Company we Keep
Tolerating Sins?
Several people at work are having affairs & my work is making me feel sick. I don't feel there is any room for advancement. But, I can't go elsewhere due to the economy. Suggestions? click for full text

Confession & Repentance
Practical Rites
Can you explain how we confess our sins and repent of them so we don't have to be judged later? I can't find your article about this & would like to print it out for my Bible Study. click for full text

Conflict Resolution
In Our Churches
Is there a clear, biblical way to handle disputes, arguments, or mismanagement of funds in a church? Where is it and how do we go about implementing such a plan? click for full text

Consequences of Sin
Paying for it Now?
Remnant Report shares this with you not to be "bossy," but to help you live a life that will bring you ultimate joy and happiness beyond what you could ever imagine! click for full text

Discipline Means He Loves Us
Just like our Kids
I am having a difficult time coping with something I did that harmed others. How can I be restored to fellowship and God's love? I think God is disciplining me. click for full text

Divorce a Gay Spouse?
Biblical?
I'm in a terrible situation - my husband has announced he's gay & is leaving us. He says he can't change & is hooked on pornography. He says it's an "addiction" & he can't change. Should I divorce? click for full text

Divorce Among Christians
Biblical?
My husband is an alcoholic who beats me and our children from time to time. I think I should divorce him but our pastor says the Bible forbids this. Any thoughts on our situation? click for full text

Escapism
Or Confrontation?
When you tell people to avoid angry or unpleasant people, aren't you just giving in to a form of escapism? Wouldn't it be more realistic to confront those who annoy us? Isn't this just a crutch? click for full text

Family Con Artists
How We Respond
My brother was a con artist and a drug addict. I want nothing to do with him anymore. He says he has changed & needs money for a car to get a job. But, I think he is conning us again. click for full text

Favoritism in Families
How to Cope
I have a problem I can't get beyond. My mother favors my brother's kids & goes to all their events. But she doesn't come to ours. Worse, she calls & tells us the great time she's having. Advice? click for full text

Fear - More than Conquerors
James Borror, Th.D.
How to conquer our fears - Gems of wisdom from our father in the faith. Dr. Borror is a professor at Talbot, founded Golden Minutes Ministries and recently began Bible Coach Online. click for full text

Female Roles in Church & Home
Backward Fundamentalists?
I read your articles on "Biblical Feminism" and "Women - Saved through Childbirth?" Are you some kind of backward fundamentalist female-haters who think women are inferior to men? click for full text

Forgiveness
No Strings Attached...
I'm having a hard time forgiving a family member who really hurt me. I heard that we can't really give forgiveness to unrepentant people. So do I still have to forgive my unbelieving realative? click for full text

Forgiving & Loving Ourselves?
I've heard it said, "You need to forgive yourself." But, forgiveness comes from another, right? How do you forgive yourself? Beside, what if we don't love ourselves to begin with? click for full text

God's Will for Me
How to Find it
I would like to do something more for God. I don't think my job and parental role fulfills what the Lord wants me to do. How do we find God's will for our lives? click for full text

Gossips - the Meddling Kind
Actions to Take?
My daughter-in-law lies in bed all day but manages to get up to see her shrink or to shop for new clothes. I keep telling my son to quit catering to her. click for full text

Granddaughter's Misbehavior
Intervention?
My grandchild is only 9 yrs. old. But, my daughter puts make-up on her and paints her nails and toenails for $60 weekly. She doesn't insist she do homework or chores. Should I say anything to her? click for full text

Grandparents Buying Love
We love our grandkids. But, we can't give them the expensive things their other grandparents are buying for them. We can't afford it. Will they love them more? Any suggestions? click for full text

Guilt - Tackling this Joy Stealer
Kurt Krowel
One of the biggest joy stealers of all is guilt. Guilt is huge. Guilt is a heavyweight. And guilt can slowly, gradually squeeze the joy of salvation out of each and every one of us...ripped off by click for full text

Guilt Recurring
A Broken Record
I keep feeling guilty for things that happened in my past over and over again. Even worse, my unbelieving family won't let me forget and still treat me like a bad person. Any thoughts on this? click for full text

Happy Church Goers
A Mirage?
People seem so "happy" in church. I feel like the only one who is such a mess. Any advice to get past all the "happy people" in church when I feel so broken? What's there for me? click for full text

Hearing from God
How does He speak to Us?
How do people "hear" from God? Why do they say, "The Lord told me to do this." Or, "we prayed about it and the Lord told us to move?" How can we really know when God speaks to us? click for full text

Here we go again..Xmas & Chanukah
Pastor Ron Timen
HERE WE GO AGAIN!!... Pastor Ron gives us his sage advice on gearing up for the Christmas and Chanukah gift giving frenzy. By the way - nice helmet Pastor Ron! click for full text

Holy Spirit uses Sinners?
I heard a TV evangelist say that if I'm sinning the Holy Spirit cannot use me. Is that true? click for full text

Hotheads - the Holy Ones
We all know people who are faithful church goers who are hypertensive. But, don't you think God created some of us to be "rebel rousers?" We're the ones who get things done - good organizers.. click for full text

Jealousy of Friends
Handling Envy
I don't have much money or a family & I feel jealous of those who do. A rich friend makes negative comments about poorer people and brags over family outings. It makes me feel left out. Advice? click for full text

Jealousy of Lord's Work?
Comparing Ministries
I find myself fretting over the successful ministries of others. Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair. I converted later in life and came from an abusive background. So I didn't have time... click for full text

Judge Not - Best Poem Ever
Anonymous 08/10/2006
submitted by Cathy Millard
This short, humorous poem gives us "food for thought." It applies to all of us as we grow in our faith and become more discerning in everything we do. Let's watch how we judge others, too. click for full text

Judging AA Higher Power?
A close member of my family has belonged to AA and has been sober for 24 years. Her recovery is excellent & she has made amends. But, AA uses the term "higher power." Will you judge them? Will God? click for full text

Judgmental Fearful Site
Your website is full of fear and judgment. For you to pass judgment on Paula White is far from a Christian viewpoint. Did you know Joyce Meyer had plastic surgery, owns a jet & expensive homes?
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Loneliness
Dr. James Borror
Loneliness is by itself, almost by definition a lack of intimacy with people. But it is really one of the major causes of the sense of loneliness. click for full text

Manipulative Families
Sticky Marriages
My nephew is going through an ugly divorce. His wife is in treatment for mental illness and has behaved in some bizarre ways. But, family members threaten to disown me if I see her. Any suggestions? click for full text

Manipulative Marriage Partners
How to Handle Situations
My wife "plays" our pastor against me. She blows up if I suggest certain scriptures but accepts them if the pastor gives them. She gets angry and hostile with me but does what the pastor wants. click for full text

Marriage Abandoned
No Responsibilities Anymore
I don't love my spouse and don't want to be married anymore or have responsiblities. I have several kids & have been married over a decade. Don't I have the right to live a fulfilled life? click for full text

Marriage to a Shrew
Actions to Take?
I read your articles on marriage & anger and wish I could get away from it. But, my wife is always mad & hypertensive and my ten-year old son is prone to classic temper tantrums. Divorce?Solutions? click for full text

Obese Christians
Feelings of Inferiority
I'm about 70 lbs. overweight and I constantly feel like I'm inferior to others. I don't want to go outside my home and I don't like people to see me in church. Suggestions? click for full text

Overeating a Sin?
I once heard a Catholic priest say that if you can't get control over a cookie, then how will you get control over Satan! Good point. So how do we quit overeating in our culture? Is it a sin? click for full text

Prayers of Unbelievers
Does God Hear Them?
Isn't it true that if I am not a Christian that God wouldn't hear my prayers anyway? Does God really hear the prayers of unbelievers? click for full text

Psychopathic People
Dealing with Them?
A family member didn't grieve when her husband died, didn't care when her nephew died, ridiculed a friend for mourning her husband's death...What can I say to friends who ask about her behavior? click for full text

Psychotherapy Skepticism
Good for your Health?
I found your 4-part articles on Alternatives to Therapy. They were really good and helped me a lot. But, why are you so strongly against mainstream psychotherapy or psychology? click for full text

Psychotic Retribution
Toward Children?
A mother at church kept my child from making friends - by segregating her with male groups. When I asked to put my girl back with girls, this mother threw a temper-tantrum and sent emails everywhere. click for full text

Reality of Salvation
The Feeling Part
I accept the intellectual part of Christianity and the historicity of Jesus. But, I'm lacking the emotional part of believing. Do you think I can be "saved" if I feel like this? click for full text

Recovery Programs
Are they Biblical?
What do you think of "recovery" churches based on 12-step programs?

Not much! Recovery programs teach people that sin is sickness. A disease model becomes the focus - not the need for repentance. click for full text

Rejecting Rejected?
When or Why?
What kind of stupid ignoramuses are you to suggest rejecting the already rejected in society - those with psychiatric histories? How about loving enemies? Forgiving? Turning the other cheek? click for full text

Relationship with Unbeliever
Partnering with Belial?
My boyfriend doesn't want to have anything to do with me because I'm not a Christian. He said to write to you. Is this fair? I can't help what I believe & think I'm a good person anway. click for full text

Remembering You
After Death?
Think about this. Who's going to remember you after you die? For how long? For 50 years? 100? And then what? Who are you then? The truth hurts, doesn't it? We're Nobody...ouch...or are we? click for full text

Retaliation
The Art of Getting Even
My husband is involved in internet porn. It hurts me so badly that I find myself doing things I wouldn't usually do. How can I live for Christ under these circumstances? Any suggestions? click for full text

Sins Hierarchy
Are Some Worse Than Others? 01/17/2008
Do you think that some sins are worse than others? Is there anything in the bible about it? Thanks...(J.M., Mt. Vernon, WA) click for full text

Sufferers or Pampered
Here and Now
Televangelists say God wants us to have nice things like good jobs, homes and cars. Why do you think this is not scriptural? Why should we put up with ridicule or suffering? What's the point? click for full text

Tackling the Joy Stealer of Anger, part 1
Kurt Krowel 07/17/2006
Expressions of anger appear to be on the rise. Today we have people shooting each other on the freeway in America over incidents that, ten years ago, would have just produced either a few expletives, click for full text

Tackling the Joy Stealer of Anger, part 2
Kurt Krowel 07/23/2006
Wrong anger - sinful anger - is nothing more than a sophisticated version of a temper tantrum. Just because we can articulate speech doesn't mean it's any more justified...it defiles everyone around click for full text

Tackling the Joy Stealers in Life - Discouragement
Kurt Krowel
I'm going to begin a new series of messages - tackling the issues in our lives that rob us of joy. I'm talking aout those things which tend to steal away our enthusiasm for living... click for full text

Teach Us to Number Our Days
V & K Emilio - Mike Frisbie
I read a story on your website about a logger who went back to school & got his degree in his 50s & died. Where is it? It was inspiring & I want to share it with someone.

Thanks - here it is... click for full text

Therapy Alternatives - Intro
Narcissism?
Psychology is one of the most destructive forces to permeate our churches in the past 200 years. It promotes narcissism, a false goal of "happiness," and emphasizes focusing upon one's past rather... click for full text

Therapy Alternatives - part 1
A goal to be "happy?"
Many of us operate under the illusion that we are supposed to be "happy" and "fulfilled." Does your Bible say that? Mine says I can have joy and peace. But, it doesn't promise "happiness." click for full text

Therapy Alternatives - part 2
Dwelling on the Past?
Is your past the problem? Many therapists insist that patients "meditate" on all that is bad or wrong in their lives - we must find the "root" of our problems. Is this true? What does the Bible say? click for full text

Therapy Alternatives - part 3
Obsessive Thoughts Eliminated?
Can you stop obsessing over certain things? Most therapists would have you think you can't. Does the Bible give us solutions to obsessive thoughts? click for full text

Therapy Alternatives - part 4
Anger Catharsis Needed?
Should we "get our anger out?" Should we find "repressed feelings?" Must we demonstrate anger and discontent to those who have hurt us? click for full text

Trusting the Lord
When Finances are Failing
In a day when banks are failing, mortgage companies & other businesses are going "belly up," and people are losing their homes and life savings, what should we do or think? click for full text

Widowhood
How to Cope?
My spouse died six months ago. I'm still terribly depressed, lonely and afraid. My church tells me I need to move on with my life. But how do I do that after 40 years of marriage? Any advice? click for full text

Women's Exemplary Roles
Doing What?
I read your articles on biblical feminism and related issues. I agree with you about the Bible being God's Word. So what can women do? If they can't preach and they stay home, what's left? click for full text

Work or Ministry?
Are they Separate?
I want to dedicate my life to Christ and I would like to do Christian work. But, I can't afford to quit my job to go back to school and work in ministry. click for full text

Marriage in Hard Times
Coping Skills
We are raising teens. A few years ago my husband lost his job. This is making things very difficult to live with. It also affects our relationships with our kids. click for full text

Ancestor Worship Revived
A Secular Pursuit
Several relatives have become involved in tracing their genealogies. One parent thinks her kids are genetic misfits because of mental illness in the family. Never mind that she might be the problem! click for full text

Forgiveness & God's Sovereignty
How do they Relate?
I read some of your answers about forgiveness where you suggest readers learn more about God's sovereignty. But, what does sovereignty have to do with forgiveness? click for full text

Forgiving Deceased Parents
How do I forgive a parent who mistreated me but is now deceased? My parents were not believers, and I am filled with rage over what they did to me and my brother. click for full text

Hearing God - Not the Culture
Avoiding Horoscopes & Psychics
How can I hear from God and know what He wants me to do? I used to follow my daily horoscope, visit a gifted, local psychic, and listen to my therapist. I desperately need to know what to do. click for full text

Military Kids
Parent Anxieties
All three of my children are serving in the military. I worry about them every minute of every day. How can I control my fears? click for full text

Thoughts Controlled
How-to Guide
I can't forgive someone and I can't stop thinking about it. I have tried and tried but I can't stop thinking about the hurts. Any suggestions? click for full text

Unconditional Forgiveness
MacArthur on Jay Adams
You had an article on unconditional forgiveness. But, I can't find it. Could you please post it one more time? It presented Jay Adams' and John MacArthur's views.

Thanks for asking. Here it is. click for full text

Forgiven but Judged?
Why Future Judgment?
Why do we have to be judged if we are forgiven once we accept Christ as Savior? Why does the Bible say our sins will be forgotten forever if we still have to be judged for all we do, think, or say? click for full text

Ten Commandments Revised Edition
Just one God. Watch yer mouth. Honor yer Ma & Pa. No killin. No tellin' tales or gossipin.'... Try memorizing these 10 - they ain't hard. click for full text